This judgment was delivered in private.
The judge has given leave for this version of the judgment to be published on condition that (irrespective of what is contained in the judgment) in any published version of the judgment the anonymity of the children and members of their family must be strictly preserved.
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Re S (1980 Hague Convention; Habitual Residence; Article 13) |
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Clare Renton (instructed by Wilson Family Law Solicitors) for the First Respondent (father)
Cliona Papazian (instructed by Cafcass Legal) for the Second Respondent (child)
Hearing dates: 16-17 October 2023
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The Honourable Mr Justice Cobb : .
Introduction
"On Thursday 12 October… Her instructions were that she remained very unwell.
…the mother's recent ill-health is particularly acute.
…the mother will not be able to participate effectively or at all in the forthcoming hearing (she had hoped to travel to London to attend in person. That is now impossible. She may not be able to engage at all, even remotely)" (emphasis by underlining added).
It was, to say the least, something of a surprise that as the case was called on for hearing on 16 October, the mother entered the courtroom in London in person, having flown from Japan on the previous day. She attended the hearing throughout, paying full attention, making notes, conversing with her legal team through an interpreter, and displaying no apparent signs of illness.
i) Read the parties' lengthy witness statements and the exhibits to which my attention has been specifically drawn; the bundle was over 1000 pages in length, and I have plainly not been taken to every document;
ii) Read the two expert reports of Makiko Mizuuchi in Japanese law, and the report of Ms Demery (Cafcass);
iii) Heard the oral submissions of counsel for each of the parties and read with care their Skeleton Arguments;
iv) Viewed / listened to a clip of video/audio-recordings of FaceTime and other conversations between the father and mother and S.
The mother's case in summary
i) S had lived her whole life in Japan from birth until she travelled to England with the father on 24 June 2022; she was habitually resident in Japan throughout that period (this is not disputed);
ii) S was unlawfully removed from Japan on 24 June 2022, when the father travelled to this country with her; the mother maintains that the father tricked her into removing S on that day, in that at that time he had no intention of returning her;
Alternatively:
iii) S was unlawfully retained by the father shortly after S's arrival in this jurisdiction in the summer holidays; the father very quickly developed an intention not to return S to Japan; there can be little doubt that S was habitually resident in Japan when the father formed that view;
iv) There was an unlawful retention as of 26 August 2022, when the father should have returned S at the end of the agreed visit; S was still habitually resident in Japan at that time;
v) There was an unlawful retention as of 28 October 2022 when the father did not return S at the end of the agreed extended stay. S was still habitually resident in Japan at that time. It is on this basis that the application was framed via the Central Authority / ICACU.
The father's case in summary
i) He did not unlawfully remove S from Japan; when he left Japan with S on 24 June, he fully intended to return her;
ii) There is no dispute that after S had left Japan, while she was in England during the summer, the mother agreed that S need not return on 26 August 2022;
iii) Indeed, during the summer of 2022 the mother consented to S remaining in this jurisdiction without limit of time;
iv) At the time of the alleged retention (28 October 2022), S's habitual residence had changed, and she was not then in fact habitually resident in Japan;
v) That since the late-summer of 2022, the mother has acquiesced in S remaining in this jurisdiction;
vi) That a return would cause a grave risk of psychological or physical harm to S or otherwise place her in an intolerable situation;
vii) That S objects to a return and that she is of an age and understanding at which it would be appropriate to take account of her views;
viii) That I should exercise my discretion not to return S.
The burden falls on the father to establish any of these exceptions to a return (save for in relation to habitual residence, in respect of which the burden falls on the mother).
Background facts: Life in Tokyo: Removal and Retention
i) In January 2020, S went to school complaining to her teachers that her mother had hit her. She said that she had told her mother that she had liked her father's beard; her mother disagreed, and hit her;
ii) In video-calls recorded on 11 June 2020 (which I viewed), the mother is seen screaming hysterically and uncontrollably at S, who appears to be cowering and terrified. In a separate video recorded in June 2020 the mother is seen pulling S's hair, and threatening her with a knife ("do you want to die?" … "Mama's got a knife… you deserve this") which she holds close to the child, to which S shouts "Mama's killing me"… "Papa help me";
iii) In January 2021, when the father was visiting Japan, the mother sent him a message in which she threatened to kill herself. The father spoke with the mother by video-call; she seemed to be taking an overdose of pills with alcohol; she passed out and became unconscious; S was (fortunately) in the care of the father at this time. The father's case is that he raced to her apartment and called the emergency services; the mother could not be taken to hospital as she had Covid. When she regained consciousness, it is the father's case that she had to be physically restrained from jumping from her 13th floor balcony. The mother accepts that she took an overdose but denies that she was trying to kill herself;
iv) On 3 February 2021 the mother sent a message to the father: "I'll kill [S]. if you keep treat me and [S] like this, we will drink many pills and whisky. Don't forget that";
v) On 1 March 2021, "I'll kill her ([S]) and I'll kill myself. I really want to die… my feeling to die is strong and serious". The mother then posted photos of S apparently asleep but with a large butcher's knife at her throat;
vi) In March 2021, the mother messaged the father to say she intended to take cocaine and leave S alone and she intended to torture S and give her cocaine. She says she will "make [S] sad and slowly kill her"; and "I actually enjoy beating her"… "I will keep her and damage her… torture her… you will never have her"… "she is bothering my life.. but I don't want to give you what you want";
vii) In a video recorded in April 2021, S asks "are you really gonna punch me?" to which the mother responds "Punch you? Yeah, if he f***ing text me like that I will f***ing punch your face". In other recorded scenes, the mother is heard shouting at S and repeatedly calling her a "motherf***er" and "bitch", and on occasions slapping her;
viii) In November 2021, the mother sent the father a text message in these terms: "If you send me $300,000, I'll give her to you…I don't need this kids….I need money…she can die…wish she wasn't even alive…hope she can get car accident and die";
ix) In a recent video (February 2022) she sent the father a message:
"I'll keep abuse (sic.) her as long as you are nasty to me. You have to know how to talk to me… that's what she gets… fear, abuse, hurt pain… I'll kill [S], hit her, wake her up now… she is crying, I'll beat her. .. I'll keep pull (sic.) her hair and make her cry and beat her" (the mother is seen pulling S's hair).
"I can see that I have often crossed the line in terms of the language I used, and I do regret that. I have no doubt that there were times when my messages were stressful for [the father] to receive both in terms of volume and content. I felt I was in a hellish situation and that I could only get his attention if he believed [S] was in distress. [S] is an excellent actress and finds it fun. I would tell her to pretend she was crying and really scared of me so we could send a video to [the father]. I do now appreciate how wrong I was to involve [S] in this way. I appreciate how harmful and disturbing it will have been for [S] to play that role. I would never intentionally harm my only daughter. I deeply regret what I did and I have since apologised to [S]";
"[S] was always clear to me that she understood it was a game and that she was just pretending to be scared in the videos… [S] has recently started to say that she was scared and was not pretending when we made those videos".
"[The father] has produced a video where I am attempting to kick down a door with my mother and [S] inside. My mother did not need to put herself in that situation when I was angry and aggressive. She did so to protect [S] from my behaviour and I am grateful to her that she did".
"I fully appreciate that our WhatsApp history often reads as a torrent of abuse from me to [the father]. I can see that I have often crossed the line in terms of the language I used, and I do regret that. I have no doubt that there were times when my messages were stressful for [the father] to receive both in terms of volume and content".
"I was desperately concerned about S's safety and well-being following [the mother's] unstable behaviour... the mother became increasingly more emotional and erratic".
During this visit, the mother agreed that the father could take S back to England for an extended summer visit. On 24 June 2022 the parents signed a notarised agreement confirming this trip; the agreement was that S would return to Japan on 26 August 2022. The father maintains that the signing of the agreement was at his instigation to prevent any allegation that he was abducting S; his case is that he fully intended to return S at the end of the visit. A second agreement was also signed on the same date, in which the father agreed to a number of conditions, some of which pertained to the summer holiday visit (i.e., accommodation for the mother if she were to visit the UK during the summer period) and others more far-reaching (i.e., that "[the father] won't marry or have kids until S is 18"). He wrote himself an e-mail on 24 June 2023 saying that he has signed the second document under duress "for fear of my own and my daughter's emotional, physical and mental well-being…".
"The police advised as follows:
• this incident is not categorised as a kidnapping case
• Japan and U.K are parts of the Hague Convention (Act for Implementation of the Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction)
• Ministry of Foreign Affairs offers support such as application for assistance in child's return and arranging contacts between the parties.
• to consult the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and a lawyer immediately
We have printed the homepage of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and handed it to the consultee.
The consultee said the following
• she will consult the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and a lawyer" (emphasis by underlining added).
"Are you crazy, Mommy? I hate it when you act like a kid. I wanna stay. I wish you didn't do that. It is not like an adult and a normal mom."
The mother replied:
"Be careful white people food. They might poison you. Don't get brainwashed baby. You will always be my baby… you are under my name 100%"
F: "You have been violent and abusive to S too".
M: "I was acting. It was only video" …
F: "You just told [S] she could stay literally an hour ago... she thinks she is staying now. You said, that she could stay here if she wants, to her directly"
M: "No. She has to come back on 8/26".
F: "You just said you were happy for her to stay here, to live here".
M: "Words are just words".
"I made [the father] promise that [S] would not be withdrawn from the [school in Tokyo], and that any arrangement for her to attend [the Junior School] would be short term only".
However, on the evening of 22 August 2022, the parents drafted an e-mail to S's international school in Tokyo in these terms:
"I am very sorry for our delayed response - I was waiting right to the last minute to see if this was truly necessary but due to unforeseen business reasons, I have to leave Japan on work and move to the UK - I am not sure exactly how long this will last but for the time being we will have to take [S] out of [the international school] and bring her back to the UK to attend school here and we will no longer need the bus service either at the moment. I have also completed the withdrawal form as requested".
I have listened to an audio recording (taken by the father) of at least part of the discussion between the parents when this e-mail was drafted. The mother plainly participates in the conversation and after the draft is read to her, she says "OK". The e-mail was, I believe, sent to the Tokyo school that evening. This is inconsistent with the mother's further case that she was unaware of the terms of the e-mail to the international school in Tokyo, as she had blocked the father's e-mail account.
F: "Thanks again for the support with the school uniform… I'll take LOADS of photos for you and your mum.
M: Thank you
F: Thanks for coming over as well to see the performance - I know that made her so happy. And also to come see the school and give your blessing for her to go there … it means a lot to me and I know it means HUGE for [S].
M: I just want [S] to have the best life."
In a continuation of the conversation on the following day, the mother suggests that she will move over to live in the UK too, to be with her daughter.
"Hi everyone - I hope all is well with you! I just wanted to write a quick note to say that as of Monday, [S] will be starting school in the UK!
Due to business and the need for me to now be based in the UK for the foreseeable future, [the mother] and I made the decision over the summer to send her to school here. [S] misses her friends at [the Tokyo school] very much, but she is also really excited to start a new school here in the UK. We'll make sure to get in touch when [S] is back in Japan as I know she would love to see everyone again. In the meantime, please don't hesitate to reach out if you should need anything and definitely get in touch if you are coming through London!! Best regards, [the father]."
"If you don't come [for the New Year] I'll be angry [like] you [have] never seen. I don't care. You will see how psycho I'll be … I don't care what you think of me…".
"I agreed to her staying until Christmas, with her returning on 27 December in time to spend New Year's Eve with me in Japan".
"I am not proud of the way that I expressed my extreme upset during this period. At times I made threats against him and [S] and pretended I didn't care and said he could have her, which I thought might make [the father] more likely to bring [S] back because he would think I wouldn't keep her in Japan".
"I don't need her. I am busy with my boyfriend. … I will have new kids with my man and be happy. You poor useless c***… I can't take care [of] kids. I'm working and … with my man."
"Don't send me this, I don't care what you want, listen what I want and then I read. Otherwise just take her. I don't give a shit."
"During a conversation with [S], in which [S] has become visibly distressed at the thought of remaining with mum, she has divulged: On 17/04/23 at approximately closing time, [S] alleges that she was hit on the head by mum in Harrods … – and even spoke to a member of staff there saying that her mum was hurting her. [S] then tried to run away from her mother but her mother took her belongings, such as her phone, so [S] could not run off as she had no means of contacting her father. – [S] states that she has no injury, no marks can be seen, but it did make her cry". (Emphasis by underlining added).
The bodycam footage records the officer reporting this to his station (contemporaneously):
"The mum's been a bit aggressive, child's been absolutely fine, mum's been saying she is not her daughter anymore and she's going to go to her boyfriends and have a new baby and forget about her…
…. the child doesn't want to go back to Japan…umm.. basically said "yeah you are not my daughter any more"…. I mean the mum is very very irate, she's very shouty and the daughter's very timid, very like she shudders away". (Emphasis by underlining added).
The bodycam also contains the recording of S in the background (while the officers are speaking with the mother):
"I don't want to go to Japan today or tomorrow or ever".
The mother denied harming S in any way or planning to abduct S. The police removed S from the mother's care and returned her to the father. The mother flew back to Japan alone.
Article 3; unlawful removal or retention; habitual residence
"The removal or the retention of a child is to be considered wrongful where –
(a) it is in breach of rights of custody attributed to a person, an institution or any other body, either jointly or alone, under the law of the State in which the child was habitually resident immediately before the removal or retention; and
(b) at the time of removal or retention those rights were actually exercised, either jointly or alone, or would have been so exercised but for the removal or retention". (Emphasis added)
Article 12 provides:
"Where a child has been wrongfully removed or retained in terms of Article 3 and, at the date of the commencement of the proceedings before the judicial or administrative authority of the Contracting State where the child is, a period of less than one year has elapsed from the date of the wrongful removal or retention, the authority concerned shall order the return of the child forthwith".
i) He bought a return flight;
ii) He repeatedly confirmed to the mother his intention to return S up to the middle/end of August (even though they were also discussing alternatives);
iii) He was plainly aware of his obligations under the Hague Convention 1980, and the penalties for failure to comply with those obligations;
iv) He signed the notarised agreement on 24 June 2022, and specifically drew to the mother's attention in correspondence the existence of the 1980 Hague Convention and the unlawful nature of any retention. His unhappiness focused on the ancillary agreement by which he would be bound by a number of conditions about his future relationships – i.e., which went far beyond the scope of the summer visit.
Accordingly, I do not find that the removal of S from Japan was wrongful.
i) S's apparent unhappiness at aspects of her life in Japan in the care of her mother enabled her quickly to integrate into life in England with her father and stepmother; her wish to remain here was expressed very soon after her arrival;
ii) In June 2022, S had returned to England, a country which she had visited in the past; she enjoyed her summer holiday in England, participating in a dance group which had put on a performance in London to which both her parents came;
iii) S started at the Junior School in early September and was enjoying it; S was being taught in her first language, English; she was doing well (a sign of having settled) and had a growing network of friends (which was evidently well-established by the time she met with Ms Demery some months later);
iv) S believed (with justification) that her mother had given her blessing to S starting school in England, and that this was to be "fulltime" (see §60(x) below); the mother had visited the school, appeared enthusiastic (taking multiple photographs), contributed to the cost of the school uniform, and had helped S to choose her extra-curricular activities, including tennis, cookery, music, guitar, drama and horse riding; this enabled S to relax into her new school and life;
v) The parents had agreed that S should live with her father, step-mother and paternal grandparents for a period; this arrangement was plainly working well, and it appears that S had a good relationship with her stepmother (a development which irked the mother). S was very much part of the family;
vi) S was registered with the father's local GP and dentist;
vii) It was clear that the father – on whom S was and is dependent – wished S to remain in England; parental intention is relevant to the assessment, but not determinative (Re KL, Re R and Re B);
viii) By the end of October, S had been in England for four months; it appears that her situation was considerably more stable and secure with her father in England than it had been with her mother in Japan; this will have helped S to integrate into her social and family environment in this country. It is the stability of S's residence as opposed to its permanence which is relevant (Re R and earlier in Re KL and Mercredi);
ix) S was continuing to experience some negative telephone calls with, and messages from, her mother during the summer and early autumn which were doubtless serving to reinforce her unhappiness about aspects of her life in Japan;
x) While not yet an adolescent[1], S's perception was that she was to be living in England full-time from September 2022. Ms Papazian records in her position statement what S told the Guardian at their recent meeting that she "loves school" and:
"She was asked if when she visited the school, whether she thought that she would be going there for a trial or for full time arrangement. She said she knew it was fulltime, adding her mother was there and she said OK to this. She reiterated it was fulltime" (Emphasis by underlining added).
Consent
"[24] Consent is an exception that is infrequently pleaded and still less frequently proved. The applicable principles were considered by this court in Re P-J (Children) (Abduction: Consent) [2009] EWCA Civ 588 [2010] 1 WLR 1237, drawing on the decisions in Re M (Abduction) (Consent: Acquiescence) [1999] 1 FLR. 174 (Wall J); In re C (Abduction: Consent) [1996] 1 FLR 414 (Holman J); In re K (Abduction: Consent) [1997] 2 FLR 212 (Hale J); and Re L (Abduction: Future Consent) [2007] EWHC 2181 (Fam); [2008] 1 FLR 914 (Bodey J). Other decisions of note are C v H (Abduction: Consent) [2009] EWHC 2660 (Fam); [2010] 1 FLR 225 (Munby J); and A v T [2011] EWHC 3882 (Fam); [2012] 2 FLR 1333 (Baker J).
[25] The position can be summarised in this way:
(1) The removing parent must prove consent to the civil standard. The inquiry is fact-specific and the ultimate question is: had the remaining parent clearly and unequivocally consented to the removal?
(2) The presence or absence of consent must be viewed in the context of the common sense realities of family life and family breakdown, and not in the context of the law of contract. The court will focus on the reality of the family's situation and consider all the circumstances in making its assessment. A primary focus is likely to be on the words and actions of the remaining parent. The words and actions of the removing parent may also be a significant indicator of whether that parent genuinely believed that consent had been given, and consequently an indicator of whether consent had in fact been given.
(3) Consent must be clear and unequivocal but it does not have to be given in writing or in any particular terms. It may be manifested by words and/or inferred from conduct.
(4) A person may consent with the gravest reservations, but that does not render the consent invalid if the evidence is otherwise sufficient to establish it.
(5) Consent must be real in the sense that it relates to a removal in circumstances that are broadly within the contemplation of both parties.
(6) Consent that would not have been given but for some material deception or misrepresentation on the part of the removing parent will not be valid.
(7) Consent must be given before removal. Advance consent may be given to removal at some future but unspecified time or upon the happening of an event that can be objectively verified by both parties. To be valid, such consent must still be operative at the time of the removal.
(8) Consent can be withdrawn at any time before the actual removal. The question will be whether, in the light of the words and/or conduct of the remaining parent, the previous consent remained operative or not.
(9) The giving or withdrawing of consent by a remaining parent must have been made known by words and/or conduct to the removing parent. A consent or withdrawal of consent of which a removing parent is unaware cannot be effective.
[26] … as a matter of ordinary language the word 'consent' denotes the giving of permission to another person to do something. For the permission to be meaningful, it must be made known. This natural reading is reinforced by the fact that consent appears in the Convention as a verb ("avait consenti/had consented"): what is required is an act or actions and not just an internal state of mind. But it is at the practical level that the need for communication is most obvious. Parties make important decisions based on the understanding that they have a consent to relocate on which they can safely rely." (Emphasis by underlining added).
i) The mother visited the Junior School and agreed to S starting in September; there is no evidence to support the mother's case that this was for a 'trial' period; the school has confirmed that it does not take pupils on this basis;
ii) The mother paid over £600 towards the school uniform for S, which she would not have been likely to do if this was just for a short and temporary stay at the school;
iii) The mother was, I find, in the same room as the father when he drafted (with her) the e-mail to the international school in Tokyo withdrawing S's place there (see §37 above);
iv) On the day after the visit to the Junior School (see §38 above), the parents' exchange reads: "Thanks… also to come see the school and give your blessing for her to go there … it means a lot to me and I know it means HUGE for [S]. M: I just want [S] to have the best life."
v) She appeared to acknowledge to the parents of the international school in Tokyo that S had now started school in England and – materially – would not be back in Japan at any specific or defined time in the future;
vi) In WhatsApp messages in the summer (probably after the visit to the school) the mother says: "she can go to school there if she wants, but you have to come to discuss with me"… "I am happy she is there and school (sic.)" … "thank you [father] … Amazing school .. well done [father]" … "I can't raise her now… impossible to take her to school";
vii) As the end of October 2022 approached there is – significantly in my view – no evidence of any (or any meaningful) discussion between the parents about S returning to Japan; no arrangements were made for flights, and there was no discussion about her returning to the school in Tokyo, no conversation about the care arrangements, or otherwise.
"[S] goes to school in UK. It doesn't mean I agree. You put pressure on me.... Brainwash her. I had no choice. … You made me. … I never agreed….".
It follows that I cannot find that the mother 'consented' to S remaining in England, as the father contends.
Acquiescence
"(1) For the purposes of Art 13 of the Convention, the question whether the wronged parent has "acquiesced" in the removal or retention of the child depends upon his actual state of mind. As Neill LJ said in [Re S (Minors) (Abduction: Acquiescence) [1994] 1 FLR 819 at 838]: "the court is primarily concerned, not with the question of the other parent's perception of the applicant's conduct, but with the question whether the applicant acquiesced in fact".
(2) The subjective intention of the wronged parent is a question of fact for the trial judge to determine in all the circumstances of the case, the burden of proof being on the abducting parent.
(3) The trial judge, in reaching his decision on that question of fact, will no doubt be inclined to attach more weight to the contemporaneous words and actions of the wronged parent than to his bare assertions in evidence of his intention. But that is a question of the weight to be attached to evidence and is not a question of law.
(4) There is only one exception. Where the words or actions of the wronged parent clearly and unequivocally show and have led the other parent to believe that the wronged parent clearly is not asserting or going to assert his right to the summary return of the child and are inconsistent with such return, justice requires that the wronged parent be held to have acquiesced."
"[45] … according to the OED "to acquiesce" means "to agree, esp. tacitly; to accept something, typically with some reluctance; to agree to do what someone else wants; to comply with, concede". The word carries with it a much greater sense of passivity; of acceptance of a state of affairs by doing nothing; of tacit compliance. In ordinary language it obviously covers active consent ex post; but it also covers passive acceptance by just "going along with" the proposal".
Mostyn J went on to draw on the speech of Lord Browne-Wilkinson (also at [45]):
"In his speech Lord Browne-Wilkinson stated at p.87:
"What then does article 13 mean by "acquiescence?" In my view, article 13 is looking to the subjective state of mind of the wronged parent. Has he in fact consented to the continued presence of the children in the jurisdiction to which they have been abducted?" (my emphasis)
Here Lord Browne-Wilkinson is clearly using acquiescence in its first sense. However, at p.89 he says:
"In my judgment, therefore, in the ordinary case the court has to determine whether in all the circumstances of the case the wronged parent has, in fact, gone along with the wrongful abduction." (My emphasis)
Here he is using acquiescence in its second sense."
Adding at [46]:
"… to succeed in a defence of acquiescence, it is not necessary to show more than the second sense of its meaning, namely that the left-behind parent has passively gone along with the removal or retention".
"… showed clearly and unequivocally that the left-behind parent was not insisting on the summary return of the child",
in which case, as per Lord Browne-Wilkinson:
"…he cannot be heard to go back on what he has done and seek to persuade the judge that, all along, he has secretly intended to claim the summary return of the children." (Re H at p.88)
i) In the autumn of 2022 (probably 10 November) the mother sought to persuade the father to fund her flight to the UK to see S; materially, she was not seeking to persuade him to send her home;
ii) In the autumn 2022, the mother sought to agree with the father a New Year visit for S to Japan, on the basis that S would return to England on 8 January 2023 (see §42 above);
iii) It seems that the mother twice gave letters of authority for S to travel out of the UK (October 2022 and February 2023), on family trips to Europe (Paris and skiing); in fact, the February 2023 authority covers any travel in the period to July 2023;
iv) In January 2023, the father sought (through solicitors) to agree a court order by which S could formally remain in England; the mother did not engage with this process constructively, responding to the father, memorably, "[d]on't send me this. I don't care what you want. Listen what I want first and I read. Otherwise just take her. I don't give a shit"; on 13 January (see §46 above), the mother indicated that she would be happy to talk about finalising an order.
v) I find as a fact that the mother well knew about the 1980 Hague Convention and its implications from (at the latest) June 2022:
a) The father had told her about it in a WhatsApp message on 24 June 2022 and on the same day he sent the mother the link to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, with the comment: "Japan signed up to Child Kidnapping laws meaning – IF I kept her in the UK after that date you could arrest me and she would be flown back"; the mother referred to engaging an international lawyer;
b) It is clear that the Japanese police had reminded the mother about the 1980 Convention during her visit to the station on 11 July 2022; she had further been advised of the importance of consulting with lawyers in the event that she considered that her daughter had been unlawfully removed or retained abroad.
Yet, the mother did not seek to assert her rights under the 1980 Hague Convention or otherwise until after the father had issued proceedings under the CA 1989 in England in mid-April 2023 following her ill-starred visit to England.
Objections
"… the child's views have to amount to objections before they can give rise to an Article 13 exception. This is what the plain words of the Convention say. Anything less than an objection will therefore not do. This idea has sometimes been expressed by contrasting "objections" with "preferences"." (Re M at [38]).
And with regard to the use of the word/concept of 'preference':
"I do not see it as a gloss on the Convention or as a term of art but rather as one way of summarising that, for reasons which will differ from case to case, the child's views fall short of an objection" ibid. at [41]).
i) is expressing no more than a preference not to return, it is not an 'objection',
and/or
ii) is in fact simply expressing a view about a return to the mother's care not to the country.
i) the Guardian (S: "a million gazillion to infinity wants to remain in the UK" – 10 October 2023);
ii) to her mother herself (see §31 above: "I wanna stay");
iii) to the police (with congruent distress) in April 2023
"I don't want to go to Japan today, tomorrow or ever";
iv) directly to me, in a letter in these terms:
"I don't want to go back to Japan because she was abusing me. But my daddy is so so … more kinder than my mummy so I want to live in England please. I begging."
"[43] The ground for this acknowledgment of the potential difficulty was laid in what Balcombe LJ said Re S [1993] at 782D. However, it may be convenient to rely upon what he said a little later in Re R (Child Abduction: Acquiescence) [1995] 1 FLR 716. Commencing at 729, he set out the principles which he considered were to be deduced from the authorities dealing with child's objections. He described the second of these as follows:
"The second principle to be deduced from the words of the Convention itself, and particularly the preamble, as well as the English cases, is that the objection must be to being returned to the country of the child's habitual residence, not to living with a particular parent. Nevertheless, there may be cases….where the two factors are so inevitably and inextricably linked that they cannot be separated. Support for that proposition will be found in the judgment of Butler-Sloss LJ in Re M (A Minor)(Child Abduction) [1994] 1 FLR 390 at p 395…."
[44] In Re M [1994], Butler Sloss LJ had said:
"It is true that article 12 requires the return of the child wrongfully removed or retained to the State of habitual residence and not to the person requesting the return. In many cases the abducting parent returns with the child and retains the child until the court has made a decision as to the child's future. The problem arises when the mother decides not to return with the child. It would be artificial to dissociate the country from the carer in the latter case and to refuse to listen to the child on so technical a ground. I disagree with the contrary interpretation given by Johnson J in B v K (Child Abduction) [1993] Fam Law 17. Such an approach would be incompatible with the recognition by the Contracting States signing the Convention that there are cases where the welfare of the child requires the court to listen to him. It would also fail to take into account article 12 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989. From the child's point of view the place and the person in those circumstances become the same….I am satisfied that the wording of article 13 does not inhibit a court from considering the objections of a child to returning to a parent."
[45] Ward LJ's approach in Re T was similar. Listing the matters that had to be established in a child's objections case, he began with the following (at 203):
"(1) Whether the child objects to being returned to the country of habitual residence, bearing in mind that there may be cases where this is so inevitably and inextricably linked with an objection to living with the other parent that the two factors cannot be separated."" (In each case, my emphasis by underlining).
"[S] is a well-spoken young girl and has good communication skills and was able to effectively convey her feelings during our meeting. … Her range of vocabulary and her ability to express herself verbally suggest that her cognitive maturity is commensurate with her chronological age. This would appear to be supported by the information received from the school which she attends in England.
At her current stage of development, [S] does not have the capacity to make decisions in her best interests and is likely to express views that will meet her emotional needs to remain close to the person who is providing her care. However, she is approaching an age when her views will carry some weight but are not determinative".
S says that she wants to see her mother but is worried about the risk of kidnap. Ms Papazian fairly argues that S's expressed wish to see her mother shows a good degree of balance and maturity in her approach.
Grave risk of physical / psychological harm; Intolerable situation
"(b) there is a grave risk that his or her return would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation".
i) Article 13(b) is, by its very terms, of restricted application: [§31: Re E (Children)]; the defence has a high threshold;
ii) The focus must be on the child, and the risk to the child in the event of a return;
iii) The burden of proof lies with the person, institution or other body which opposes the child's return. The standard of proof is the ordinary balance of probabilities, subject to the summary nature of the Hague Convention process: [§32: Re E (Children)];
iv) It will rarely be appropriate to hear oral evidence of the allegations made under Article 13(b) and so neither the allegations nor their rebuttal are usually tested in cross-examination;
v) The risk to the child must be "grave" and, although that characterises the risk rather than the harm, "there is in ordinary language a link between the two": [§33: Re E (Children)];
vi) "Intolerable" is a strong word, but when applied to a child must mean a situation which this particular child in these particular circumstances should not be expected to tolerate. Amongst these are physical or psychological abuse or neglect of the child: [§34: Re E (Children)];
vii) Article 13(b) is looking to the future, namely the situation as it would be if the child were to be returned forthwith to his home country: [§35: Re E (Children)];
viii) The separation of the child from the abducting parent can establish the required grave risk (Re IG at para.[47](3)"
ix) In a case where allegations which amount to grave risk are disputed:
"… the court should first ask whether, if they are true, there would be a grave risk that the child would be exposed to physical or psychological harm or otherwise placed in an intolerable situation. If so, the court must then ask how the child can be protected against the risk. The appropriate protective measures and their efficacy will obviously vary from case to case and from country to country. This is where arrangements for international co-operation between liaison Judges are so helpful." [§36]: Re E (Children) (Emphasis by italics added).
x) The court must examine in concrete terms the situation in which the child would be on a return. In analysing whether the allegations are of sufficient detail and substance to give rise to the grave risk, the judge will have to consider whether the evidence enables him or her confidently to discount the possibility that they do;
xi) The situation which the child will face on return depends crucially on the protective measures (including the efficacy of undertakings) which can be put in place to ensure that the child will not be called upon to face an intolerable situation when he or she gets home. Thus:
"… the clearer the need for protection, the more effective the measures will have to be" [§52: Re E (Children)]
"… forward-looking does not mean that past behaviours and incidents cannot be relevant to the assessment of a grave risk upon the return of the child to the State of habitual residence. For example, past incidents of domestic or family violence may, depending on the particular circumstances, be probative on the issue of whether such a grave risk exists. That said, past behaviours and incidents are not per se determinative of the fact that effective protective measures are not available to protect the child from the grave risk". (§50)
"… circumstances as they would be if the child were to be returned forthwith. The examination of the grave risk exception should then also include, if considered necessary and appropriate, consideration of the availability of adequate and effective measures of protection in the State of habitual residence" (§50).
He added:
"It is also axiomatic that the risk arising from the child's return must be grave. Again, quoting from Re E, at [33]: "It must have reached such a level of seriousness as to be characterised as 'grave'". As set out in Re A, at [99], this requires an analysis "of the nature and degree of the risk(s)" in order to determine whether the required grave risk is established" (emphasis in the original).
"… unless the court properly analyses the nature and severity of the potential risk which it is said will arise if the child is returned to the requesting State, the court will not be in a position properly to assess whether the available protective measures will sufficiently address or ameliorate that risk such that the grave risk required by Article 13(b) will not have been established. As set out in Re E, at [36], the question the court is considering is "how the child can be protected against the risk" (my emphasis). The whole analysis is contextual and forms part of the court's process of reasoning, as referred to by me in Re A, at [97], adopting this expression from Re S (A Child) (Abduction: Rights of Custody) [2012] 2 AC 257, at [22]". (§58)
"[70] The authorities make clear that the court is evaluating whether there is a grave risk based on the allegations relied on by the taking parent as a whole, not individually. There may, of course, be distinct strands which have to be analysed separately but the court must not overlook the need to consider the cumulative effect of those allegations for the purpose of evaluating the nature and level of any grave risk(s) that might potentially be established as well as the protective measures available to address such risk(s)." (Emphasis by underlining added).
i) Physical abuse (i.e., S being slapped by her mother as reported by S to her Tokyo school; being punched on the arm several times [reported to staff at her school in Tokyo on 29 January 2020]). It is also alleged (see above) that the mother assaulted S while at Harrods in April 2023; the police observed S being "visibly distressed at the thought of remaining with Mum" and "shuddering away". Most recently S made further report to the Cafcass officer:
"[S] elaborated on her experiences of her mother in Japan. She told me that "my mummy was mean, was abusive, she slaps me. When I was 4 I didn't know days of the week. She was so mad at me she slapped my cheeks. She often got mad at me. I don't know why."
ii) Emotional abuse (i.e., being exposed to her mother's shouting, abusive language and intimidating behaviour while in Japan (see the comments about the video-recordings at §20-23 above); being threatened with a knife; the attempted unscheduled and clandestine removal of S back to Japan by her mother in April 2023;
iii) Neglect (i.e., being left alone in the flat in Japan for extended periods). On this point, the father has produced messages passing between himself and S's nanny which strongly suggests that S was left alone for extended periods. I note that the mother says: "I told [the father] on a few occasions that I left [S] alone in the apartment for days at a time. I did not do that and I never would as it would be unsafe and frightening for her. I just told [the father] that to try to scare him into coming back to support us". While I do not make any finding that the mother did leave S for extended periods, I do take into account the mother's conduct in telling the father that she had done so;
iv) Sexual abuse (i.e., allegations made to her step-mother and investigated by the local police; the suggestion – raised by the mother herself – that she had had sexual intercourse with a man in the presence of S: "My WhatsApp messages are at times just a string of ridiculous threats which [the father] knows to be nonsense").
The evidence relevant to this alleged abuse is found throughout the documents filed by the father, and is to some extent independently recorded by S's school in Tokyo, the police in England (who have investigated her allegation of sexual abuse), social services in England, and S's Guardian.
Physical abuse
i) S has given compelling accounts of being physically abused by her mother in the past, including in April 2023; the account given by the police officer which is referenced in §89(i) above is chilling;
Emotional abuse
ii) Some of the video-recorded conversations show very abusive behaviour of the mother towards S – threatening her with a knife, and screaming abuse at her; it is obvious that S is terrified by her mother's conduct;
iii) The mother's contention that the video-recordings have been staged for the father's benefit is absurd; that the mother suggests this speaks volumes about her lack of insight into the effect of her damaging behaviour;
iv) The mother has repeatedly spoken with her daughter by Facetime in ways which are both hurtful to S and harmful to her; S is entitled to feel rejected by her mother and manipulated. The mother tells her daughter that her "prayer for [a] curse [on either S or the father] is very strong", adding that she has never done so "fiercer" and repeatedly calls the father a "terrible human". In a recent telephone call (26 September 2023), I note that the mother said to S:
a) "you are being mean to me…."bullied mama" that's what everyone calls me….Look at this" and shows S her mobile phone;
b) "I am too tired to spend my energy on you and then your dad and all mean people you know";
c) "you tell I am abusing you bla bla bla you know…I'm gonna have another new baby and gonna love my daughter and son … I will give all my expensive stuff, everything to my daughter my new baby … all my important my treasure I give to my new baby… I am always dreaming about having new baby you know again and take care of new baby and love my and sleep with my new baby you know …";
d) "I'm gonna spend all my time and all my money for that kids … and no time for you byeeee";
e) "I am so disappointed with you though … I loved you so much the last 8 years…but you know, I guess now you don't love me. (sighs). I gave up on you [S]";
f) "Just stay wherever you want to stay.. I don't really care … cos I don't need you… I have nothing to talk to you about";
g) Her next child will not become a "nasty kid like you…" … "nasty person like you, a nasty daughter like you talking bad things about me"… "Truly you have become a horrible child";
h) S: "Do you love me?" Mother: "I used to"; S: "do you like me?", Mother: "I am not sure";
i) "Your dad is a bad person";
j) S: "I am acting like the Mum here, you're acting like the baby. Like the crybaby here, like the angry baby"; Mother "Shut up you f***ing idiot".
v) Further illustration of this conduct is the way in which the mother undermines S's relationship with her stepmother who the mother refers to as a "f***ing bitch"; she says "in reality when they [the stepmother] get their own child or their own baby she's gonna love her own child and then become mean to you … it's famous! Stepmothers all definitely become like that" and adds in another call "when you grow up you gonna know how important real mum you know…not a step-mum. So many news in Japan that all the stepmother and stepfather they always mean to the kids…" When S challenges her mother and tells her that her stepmother is not mean, the mother replies "they will change, you will see". She directly accuses her daughter of being "brainwashed" by the father.
Physical abuse
i) The mother accepts that she has smacked S as a method of discipline (which the mother says is common in Japanese culture) but not more than 5 times in her life, and never with enough force to cause an injury.
Emotional abuse
ii) The mother accepts "that I have a fiery temper. When I am upset, angry, scared or desperate, my kneejerk reaction is to swear at and threaten [the father]". She adds:
"The WhatsApp messages, voice notes and videos produced within these proceedings do not show an accurate picture of who I am or how I behave generally towards, [S], my family or in society. They reveal a problematic behaviour which I am fully aware I need to address … I have a tendency to say the most extreme things I can think of, as a release. I make death threats and say shocking things"…
iii) The incidents in which S appears to be abused on the videocall, while she brandishes a knife are just "a game":
"[S] is an excellent actress and finds it fun. I would tell her to pretend she was crying and really scared of me so we could send a video to [the father]. I do now appreciate how wrong I was to involve [S] in this way. I appreciate how harmful and disturbing it will have been for [S] to play that role. I would never intentionally harm my only daughter. I deeply regret what I did and I have since apologised to [S]. … [S] was always clear to me that she understood it was a game and that she was just pretending to be scared in the videos."
"The vast majority of my seemingly abusive behaviour is just performative, either as a way of releasing extreme upset or as a way of getting attention. Almost all of that behaviour is directed at [the father] and [S] is not exposed to it. 99% of my interactions with [S] I am a loving, caring, responsible, fun, relaxed mother. [S] is not afraid of me, I do not harm or scare her and she is safe and happy in my care".
(Both extracts from the mother's 3 July 2023 witness statement).
iv) S was just pretending to be scared in the video.
"I suffered a depressive breakdown. On occasion, I completely lost my self-control and made videos of myself behaving in such a way to [S] that I thought would compel [the father] to return. It did not work. I deeply regret that behaviour. Whilst I explained to [S] that it was just a performance for [the father], I understand that she must have found my behaviour, my uncontrolled upset and my performance really frightening. I have apologised to [S] and I will never behave in that way around her again" (Emphasis by underlining added).
There is no evidence that the mother has taken steps to address her behaviour.
Protective measures
i) That S remains temporarily with the father, and the father returns to Japan with S (the father maintains that this is impractical/impossible);
ii) That the father would be in a position to make an application to the Japanese court for it to determine who holds parental authority, and that, if he were to hold parental authority, he could relocate with the child to England without an application to the court and does not require permission;
iii) That S is placed in the care of the maternal grandmother, either with the mother or separately (the mother spends half of her life in South Korea).
i) The father (as an unmarried father) does not automatically have parental authority, but can apply for parental authority from the court (in the absence of agreement); he can apply for a 'transfer of authority' to himself but cannot obtain joint custodial rights;
ii) Only a parent with parental authority can relocate with the child away from Japan; this can actually be done without the need to obtain a court order;
iii) If the parent with parental authority is "unsuitable for the welfare of the child" the family court can order a transfer of parental authority; there is also a mechanism for removing the child into the care system; there are Child Guidance Centres, which play a "central role among the agencies involved in abuse". Foster homes exist.
iv) It appears that the views of a child aged 15 and over are taken into account in any court determination as are the views of a child of under 15 (which will be taken by a family court investigation officer).
It seems reasonably clear that while in many ways the procedures mirror those which exist in this country, the father would face very considerable difficulty in claiming custodial rights and permission to remove the child from Japan to England as an unmarried father without the agreement of the mother.
i) The maternal grandmother is an elderly lady suffering from numerous chronic illnesses including the possibility of early onset Alzheimer's; I am not in a position to make any finding about her medical condition;
ii) The maternal grandmother lives in Osaka which is 250 miles from Tokyo;
iii) The maternal grandmother cares for her elderly husband who is in extremely poor health; it is said that he is dependent on the maternal grandmother;
iv) It is the father's case that the maternal grandmother has demonstrated many times that she has not been able to control or manage the mother; it appears that she was actively involved in the mother's plans to abduct S from England in the Easter holiday visit in 2023.
"I believe I am best placed to care for [S], having been her primary carer and then sole carer for her entire life until her wrongful removal from Japan in the summer of 2022".
Discretion
"… in cases where a discretion arises from the terms of the Convention itself, it seems to me that the discretion is at large. The court is entitled to take into account the various aspects of the Convention policy, alongside the circumstances which gave the court a discretion in the first place and the wider considerations of the child's rights and welfare."
"…the exercise of the discretion under the Convention is acutely case-specific within a framework of policy and welfare considerations. In reaching a decision, the court will consider the weight to be attached to all relevant factors, including: the desirability of a swift restorative return of abducted children; the benefits of decisions about children being made in their home country; comity between member states; deterrence of abduction generally; the reasons why the court has a discretion in the individual case; and considerations relating to the child's welfare."
"… it is inconceivable that a court which reached the conclusion that there was a grave risk that the child's return would expose him to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place him in an intolerable situation would nevertheless return him to face that fate."
In short the discretion will almost inevitably be exercised – and it would be exercised in this case if required – by refusing to make a return order where the Article 13(b) exception is made out on the basis of a grave risk of harm.
Conclusion
i) I am satisfied that by the time of the alleged retention of S in England at the end of October 2022, S was as a matter of fact habitually resident in England; thus, the 'retention' was not 'unlawful' and the claim for summary return under the 1980 Hague Convention fails on this basis;
ii) If my assessment of her habitual residence is wrong, I am satisfied that the mother nonetheless acquiesced in S remaining in this country after October 2022, in that she consciously 'went along' with the arrangement for many months, until the father issued proceedings here in mid/late April 2023;
iii) If the evidence were not in fact to have shown that the mother had acquiesced in S's continued retention in England, I am satisfied that S genuinely objects to a return to mother and (inextricably) Japan, and that she has reached an age and level of maturity at which it would be appropriate for me to have regard to her views; her objection appears to me to be firmly and legitimately rooted in what she describes (and what I have seen to some extent) of her lived experiences in the care of her mother;
iv) Further, I am satisfied that S is at a grave risk of physical or psychological harm or would otherwise be placed in an intolerable situation if she were to be returned to Japan; the protective measures proposed by the mother are not likely in my judgment to mitigate that serious risk;
v) In the event that the outcome of the application was to be decided on the basis of any of the bases set out in (ii)-(iv) above, I am satisfied that it would be wrong – in the exercise of my discretion – to order S to return to Japan. This is particularly so given my clear findings about the grave risk of physical or psychological to S in such an event, and the inadequacy of the so-called protective measures. This is not a case in which the mother seeks a "swift restorative" return of S to Japan; S is now integrated into life in England, and it is right that the English courts should consider her future;
vi) For the avoidance of doubt, I am not satisfied that the mother ever 'consented' (in the way that term is understood under the 1980 Hague Convention) to S living in England long-term.
Note 1 During the hearing counsel and I considered what Lord Wilson said in Re LC [2014] UKSC 1 at para.37 [Back]