1. The
parties hereto were married on the 15th January, 1977 at the Parish Church in
Killiney, Co. Dublin.
3. The
Petitioner alleges that he was put under severe duress by his own parents and
by the Respondent's parents to marry the Respondent once they became aware that
the Respondent had delivered a baby on the 21st day of October, 1976.
4. The
Petitioner herein prays the Court for an Order that the marriage celebrated
between the Petitioner and Respondent is null and void.
5. The
Respondent in her answer denies that pressure was put on the Petitioner to
marry her and she further denies all the allegations in the Petition. Evidence
in this case was given by the Petitioner, W.D., his mother, Mrs. D., and by the
Respondent herein. In addition a report was handed into court from Dr. David
Shanley, a consultant psychiatrist, who examined both parties.
8. On
New Year's Eve 1976 the Petitioner was out socialising and when he returned to
his parent's home at approximately 2.00 a.m. on the following morning the
parents were waiting up for him, they had at that time been informed that he
was the father of a baby and they instructed him that he would have to get
married to the Respondent herein. At that time he had no intention of getting
married and he was shocked when he realised that the Respondent had visited his
family and informed his parents of the arrival of the baby.
9. A
few days later the Respondent came to his office in Dun Laoghaire where he was
working and indicated to him that she was under considerable pressure from her
parents to get married. The Respondent told him that her mother was putting
pressure on her to get married and if she did not get married the baby would be
taken back to the United States by her brother and that she had no alternative
but to marry if she wished to retain the baby.
A
family conference took place in the Respondent's parent's home at which the
Petitioner and his father attended and that the Respondent's mother and father
were present and also her brother who had arrived home from the United States.
He was told by all concerned that he would have to marry the Respondent herein,
that the baby would have to be given a name and if he failed to marry the
Respondent the brother would take the baby to the United States. The baby was
produced and that was the first time he saw the baby and this put considerable
pressure on him. He was not ready financially or emotionally to get married.
10. The
wedding was subsequently arranged within two weeks from the family conference
day and he had absolutely nothing to do with the wedding. He did not pick the
date for the wedding, the church for the wedding or the hotel for the
subsequent reception. He stated that if he got time to consider the matter he
would not have married the Respondent herein.
11. Prior
to the wedding he went to the local priest. He advised the local priest of the
situation and he advised him against going through with the marriage and the
local priest said he would have a chat with the respective parents and he
suggested that possibly the baby might be adopted. The local priest got a very
bad reception from both sets of parents when he suggested to them that the
marriage should be postponed.
12. On
the night prior to the wedding the Petitioner was in the company of the
Respondent, he told her that he did not wish to go through with the wedding and
he tried to convince the Respondent herein not to go through with it. His
belief was that both himself and the Respondent were under considerable
pressure to go through with the wedding. On the morning of the wedding he said
to his mother that he was not going through with the wedding and she said to
him that he would have to go through with it and she was not prepared to allow
him to live in her house anymore.
13. In
relation to the wedding no invitations were sent out, guests were not invited
and approximately twelve people attended the reception in the hotel. The
reception was advertised as a birthday party. He stated he married not of his
own free will, he was under immense pressure and also a threat that he would be
kneecapped if he failed to go through with the wedding ceremony. There was no
honeymoon, the wedding took place on a Saturday and he was back at work the
following Monday. Following the marriage he still believed that he was single
and he did not accept the fact that he was married.
14. In
1982 the Petitioner applied to the catholic church for a church annulment which
was granted some years later. In 1990 he went to his solicitor who then
advised him that he could bring a civil claim for annulment.
15. In
cross-examination he stated that the Respondent wanted to keep the baby but
that he encouraged her to have the baby adopted. He stated that the wedding
was arranged by the families, that it was hastily arranged and that it was an
informal wedding.
16. Evidence
was also given by the mother of the Petitioner. She stated that on the evening
of the 31st December, 1976 she and her husband had a visit from the Respondent
herein and that they had never heard of the Respondent herein before or the
fact that she had had a baby by the Petitioner. The Respondent told the
Petitioner's mother that her son W. would have to marry her and if not her
brother would kneecap him if he failed to do so. Mrs. D. stated that both
families got on very well and it was agreed between the families that her son
would marry the Respondent herein. She stated that both families wanted them
to marry for the sake of the baby and her son was going to be made to marry the
Respondent. She stated that her family were shocked when they realised what
had happened and the marriage took place approximately two weeks later.
17. She
stated that her son, on the morning of the wedding, told her that he was not
going ahead with the wedding and that he did not want to marry the Respondent.
She was quite emphatic that her son would not have married but for the pressure
that was put on him. Her husband was anxious that the baby would have a proper
family life and that her son was put under intense pressure and had no choice
in the matter. The wedding was arranged by the Respondent's family and her
family did not want anybody to know about the existence of the baby. She
stated that one week after the wedding her son said to her that he was not
staying in the marriage, he intended getting out and he could not stand it.
18. The
Respondent then gave evidence. She stated that she had worked for one year in
the United States and when she returned home she met the Petitioner herein and
she fell for him. She was then twenty-eight years of age and she felt
comfortable and secure in his presence. A sexual relationship commenced
between them and that in the Spring of 1976 she became pregnant. The
Petitioner wanted her to have an abortion but she was not interested in
abortion. She was informed about a convent in Cork and she arranged that she
would go to this convent for the duration of her pregnancy and have the baby
there. She told her parents that she was going to London to work. The baby D.
was born on the 21st October, 1976. Some time after the birth she then told
her mother that she had a baby and her mother told her that she was to come
home. When she returned home her mother and her brother put her under pressure
to do something about it. Her father was very upset. Her mother was quite a
dominant personality and that she told her she would have to give the child a
name. Her bother told her that she would have to get on the phone and to ring
the father and his parents. She rang the parents and then called to see them
and his parents stated that if she wanted to marry him she was to go ahead and
do so. She stated that at the back of it all that she did not want to marry
him, as she had found out things that she did not like about him, that he had
rejected the child when she became pregnant and that he did not want to know
anything about it. The Petitioner's father told her that if she wanted to
marry the Petitioner that he, the father, would make him do so. She stated in
evidence that the Petitioner herein was insistent that he did not want to get
married. She accepted in evidence that both of them were under considerable
pressure to marry one another. She agreed that if she did not contact the
Petitioner's parents that he would never had contacted her. She further agreed
that she married the Petitioner herein because of pressure from her parents and
she accepted that a night or so before the wedding the Petitioner told her that
he did not want to go through with the marriage. She agreed that her mother and
his parents arranged the marriage ceremony. There was no engagement as such.
The Petitioner at no time proposed marriage to her and she was not anxious
herself to marry.
19. The
report of Dr. Shanley concludes that both parties to the marriage, on being
interviewed by him separately, indicated clearly that there was overt and
covert pressure from both families to get married and as a consequence of this
neither party had either the time nor the opportunity to consider the
implications of marriage. He further states that Mr. D. indicated to him that
he did not wish to get married right up until the actual day of the marriage.
He further states that Mrs D. is in full agreement that there was considerable
pressure from both sets of parents to get married. In particular she stated to
him that her own parents saw her pregnancy as a potential disgrace on the
family and she was clear that her husband said at the time that he did not wish
to get married to her.
20. It
seems to me that the question in this case that I must ask is did each party to
the marriage genuinely freely consent to marry one another?
21. I
am absolutely satisfied that the contract of marriage as entered into between
the Petitioner and the Respondent herein was not one in which there was full
and free consent of the contracting parties. The decision to marry on the part
of the Petitioner and the Respondent has been caused to such an extent by
external pressures from both families that the decision to marry loses the
character of a fully free act on each party's behalf so that consequently no
valid marriage had taken place.
22. So
the relief claimed herein must be granted, namely, that the marriage celebrated
between the Petitioner and the Respondent on the 15th January, 1977 is and was
null and void.
23. I
note that it has been agreed between the parties that no Order is to issue in
this case until such time as the family home is transferred into the children's
names and also until such time as the judgment mortgages registered against the
family home are discharged by the Petitioner herein.