IN THE COURT OF APPEAL (CIVIL DIVISION)
ON APPEAL FROM THE GREAT GRIMSBY COUNTY COURT
(SITTING IN HULL)
(His Honour Judge Hull)
Strand London, WC2 Tuesday, 5th November 2002 |
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B e f o r e :
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IN THE MATTER OF S (A CHILD) |
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The Applicant appeared in person.
The Respondent did not appear and was unrepresented.
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Crown Copyright ©
Tuesday, 5th November 2002
"There are some indications that Mr S tends to harbour grudges and tends to `bank' hostility. While there is no indication that he has any overt intention to do harm to his daughter, clearly the level of hostility combined with his history of explosive actions would put his daughter at risk should that occur in her presence. Additionally, Mr S appears to be strongly focused on his current difficulties with his former wife. As such, it is likely that he will have difficulty placing himself in her position and recognising risks presented to her. He will therefore have some difficulty in empathising with her and/or placing her needs above those of his own should the two come into conflict.
It cannot be recommended that Mr S have sole complete unsupervised care of daughter at this time. While there is indication that he cannot spend limited periods of time alone with his daughter, it is unlikely that his ability to respond to her appropriately will be influenced strongly by his interactions with her mother. It is therefore recommended that any contact with his daughter be initiated and terminated at a neutral venue with no contact between him and his former partner. Should his contact with his daughter become inappropriate, or if there are any indications of Mr S using his daughter either to gain access or as a lever against his former wife, any contact between him and his daughter should be re-evaluated with a view to termination."
"Given the content and presentation of the letters, I would argue that they have been used as a lever against Mrs S which suggests that even indirect contact is not appropriate at the present time.
J appears to already feel some responsibility for her father. If she were to receive and understand the letters sent, she would feel the need to parent and care for her father."
That is the real source of the problem. The difficulty always in these cases is that parents find it very hard indeed to control their emotions in respect of their children, to look at it from the child's point of view and not to put too great a pressure on the child. It is very hard. But, of course, from the child's point of view that sort of pressure is only going to make a very difficult situation even worse, and that was the reason behind the social worker's report.